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Dear Admin,

Recently as I was browsing throught when I got this excellent website. Now I have a small querry with regards to my registration, I created my username & password with the website…h4help.org, but after registering, i tried logging in, on which I got a message stating that “Incorrect username & password”.

Can anbody help me out with this? Is this a paid website? My e-mail id is suvasinir@gmail.com

Thanks.

Regards,

Suvasini 

This is my first post. I was just going through the posts and thought to put down my thoughts as they came probably review them later.
I have been in US for past 1 year on H4. During this time i met a lots of Indians and their families some of them are now Americans.
After meeting them i realized the once happy and satisfied were those who had good number of friends. Even if the spouse was on H4 it did not matter.They seemed to be families away from home.
This made me thinking is it my legal status or inability to communicate with others more frequently was the source of misery. With communicating i mean more face to face rather then on phone or web.
Keeping this in mind i tried to meet more families around my place i was surprised to find most of them preferred to be on phone with family and friends in India in mornings and afternoon time was for house work. And then these people say they find difficult to adjust.
But one good thing that has happened is now i have more frequent get together at my place. For the time being it makes me happy being with people.
And i have realized though we all have families back home we love them but it also essential to try and have good family friends here too. Somehow i feel we all are alone and lonely but still not many try to relate to others. We try to find solace in calling home.
I am not sure weather social networking is the key to better life but these are my thoughts.

hi all

its good to know that there are many others trying to make a difference in their lives.my mother used to help children of our housemaids,vegetable vendors and others to study and also sponsor them to school.so i too wanted to have a greater purpose in life than merely living for myself and my family.i finished my engineering degree and got into a multi national software firm and was earning quite a bit.i am from an affluent family and least responsible towards myself.(everything was taken care of …).it was not necessary for me to get married to come to the u.s. since our company itself sponsors h1 b.but it so happened that i quit my job to join my husband here in the u.s. after our marriage.its then i went through the depression that everyone goes through.it was extremely difficult for me to explain my feelings about being dependent because i had a very nice time here.it was a vacation but when future was concerned there where no discussions about what i can do to be independent.my husband has been in the u.s for seven years and i thought he would help me find a way to get into universities or a job since software professionals are in demand.but here i was sitting inside house without internet (since he would take his laptop to the office) cooking and cleaning and not wanting to watch television.i felt completely backward and my husband discouraged me from doing anything.it was very easy for him to laugh at me since i did not have any information and gathering information was difficult without a computer.its very difficult to explain things to my parents too since girls don’t really work in our families and they always said whats the fuss all about when your husband earns enough.many of us here actually want to prove ourselves to these men here but don’t really want to acknowledge that they are responsible for our state here.the word bored and lonely are the terms we use to cover up our actual state of low self esteem and loss of dignity and potential.the more you try to cover up the more depressed you get.and its more easy for our husbands to call us temperamental.so i started complaining about the fact that i needed internet and got one.I’m six months pregnant and looking at courses that i can take in the next fall semester.
now that i don’t depend on him for information has made me confident.and all these well meaning husbands cant really stop us from studying we don’t need them for financing either since we can take up a loan.i know its got to be done from the scratch but i look at it as a new beginning.as i wait for the arrival of my child i want to figure out all that i can do to be a successful and confident mom.it might look like a struggle now but once i’m out of this mess i want to be helping the rest and not just living for myself.

Hi my name is Arlene and I am a journalism student at Columbia University, NY. I am doing a story on the difficulties faced by spouses on H4 visas and the problems they may directly or indirectly face because of their visa status and not getting the permission to work.

I am looking to speak with individuals who can share their experiences with me to highlight the plight of such spouses, so that we could collectively make a difference.

Anyone interested in talking about their experiences may email me at amc2237@columbia.edu with your email address and phone number (in the subject please type: H4 visa holder) and I will send you my phone number through mail so we could set up a mutually convenient time and talk. Thanks a lot.

Hoping to hear from you and thanks for your time. We will collectively make a difference.

Regards,

Arlene

Hi Girls,

My Film ‘Hearts suspended’ is screening as part of the Mahindra Indo American ARts council’s Film festival in NJ/NY. Please check out www.heartssuspended for more information and to see trailer. I am hoping this will bring light to the H4 issue and bring hope and peace to all women on H4 and their families.

Please forward to your friends, family anyone whom you want to make aware. Tickets available at www.iaac.us.

Best,

Meghna

Strange land, strange faces

familiarity will never come

my heart not letting it.

Home, where is home?

the home I left behind never to return

as girl, as woman lost

forever, lost again

in a sea of strange faces

alone I sleep, I wake, I feed

on my soul, punishment

leaving behind love,

love for a girl no more

and yet finding love again

as woman, and again

in his arms for eternity

I pray, and still… alone.

Hours passing by

days, months, years

forever in a land of strange faces

revelling in love

and yet, pining for a love

left behind.

I don’t know if i should be here… i am not in US and i do not have an H4, but soon i will… I got married some time back and my husband and i are planning to move to US. He is into software and will get an H1B visa while i will have to come under the H4. I am an MBA in marketing, have been working for the past 2 and half yrs with one of the largest market research agencies in India. I would like to know if there are any courses that the community colleges offer in Marketing or Research etc. I was taking it easy till now but after having read a few blogs on this site i am a bit skeptical about my future. Could some one tell me if it is allowed to come there on H4 and then study, becasue probably once i study there i might be able to get a job for myself. Guess i could prepare because i have time on my hand right now… 

I have completed my film titled ‘Hearts Suspended’ on the H4 visa issue and am now working on submitting it to festivals and media outlets. I would like to assign an H4 visa holder with the task of making a website for the film. Are there any web designers out there who would be willing to work on this for me? I will not be able to pay for this, but would be happy to put up a blurb of the perosn behind the site and also help that person build their career by giving reccomendations.

If interested please reply at meghnadamani@hotmail.com 

Thanks,

Meghna

Hi my name is Bernadette, I am looking into getting an 0-1 Extraordinary Ability visa, I am a dancer from Uk looking to move to US.  I have enquired about all the different things I need, I’ve spoke to many different people.  I was wondering if anyone knew the cost for an attorney of getting an 0-1 visa for myself and an 0-3 visa for my husband.  I have spoke to different lawyers and have been billed for there help so I was hoping I could find out the answer to this question without extra expense.  Thank you Id be so gratefull for any help.

Bernadette